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Perspectives on Life and Caring

From the desk of Sharon K. Brothers, President, EasyCEU.com and aQuire Training Solutions
  February, 2007

in this issue

The Sandwich Generation: Lessons from Disney

Tell Us Your Story


 

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Hey – who made me the boss?
Leadership skills for the new manager

Did you know that the number one reason people LOVE or HATE their job is because of their boss?

You can give people more money, more time off, more challenges, but it they don’t like their boss, they’ll be gone.

So how do you be a good boss, and gain the loyalty and respect of your employees at the same time?

You’re the Boss – believe it

One of the biggest mistakes we’ve seen over the years is the person, newly promoted to team leadership, who is still trying to prove him or herself.

There was Delilah who would change people’s schedules just to show them that she could.

There was Nancy who would talk to the people on her team in a confrontational, hostile manner.

There was Bob, who simply laughed and joked with people – he NEVER corrected anyone about anything.

Bad bosses, every single one of them.

None of them had yet accepted the true meaning of being a boss: an opportunity and a privilege.

Being the boss doesn’t mean wielding power in the way someone may have done in your life.

It doesn’t mean being tough – or too nice.

It DOES mean seeing your role in a totally different way. Looking at the big picture, instead of just the job. Thinking about what you want your team to become, and how you want to build higher quality in every aspect of the job.

It means having the opportunity to help the people who work on your team become better at what they do.

It means feeling gratitude and a sense of responsibility that you have the power to make people love their job – or hate it.

You have the power to give someone a job – or take it away.

You have the power to make work a rewarding, challenging, great place to be – or a place with constant turnover because it’s boring and unrewarding.

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Dear Sharon,

Whew! I don't know if your month has been flying by like mine, but if so, I'm guessing you're hanging on by your fingernails, too. Just to give you a clue how busy we've been, here's an email I received from Wendy just this morning (Wendy's our faithful EasyCEU Project Manager and Friday Funnie's editor) as I sent a test email to our "Tell us Your Story" board (see below for more details):

"Thank you so much for your story. We here at EasyCEU hear your sad, sad, story over and over again. We'd really like to help, but we got our own stink'n lists that our slave driving boss continues to add to. Again, thanks for your story - it's always comforting to know that we are not alone in our misery! "

Wendy - I printed this email and it's in your file...

Seriously, though, did you know that a recent study published in the journal Social Work reported that social workers who spend their careers helping other people suffer more than double the rate of post- tramatic stress than the average person? The author of this study thinks perhaps much of what we helping professionals (that's all of us, social worker or not) think of as burnout may in fact be emotional trauma. (Read More)

How do you cope? By laughing, spending time with friends and people you love and by finding someone to talk to - especially during periods of very busy work!

Read on for more thoughts on our challenge, and some exciting new ideas we have to help you in your work.

Here's to some help along the way,

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  • The Sandwich Generation: Lessons from Disney
  • For the past 20 years, I have taught about, written about, and thought I understood the Sandwich Generation experience: the adult children, still caring for children of their own, and also caring for aging parents.

    Now, however, I do more than understand – I am living the role. Last night, standing in the checkout line at Target with all the essentials needed to set my mom up in her new retirement apartment, I realized that I had done the exact same thing just a few months ago with my eldest daughter, who was moving into her first apartment.

    I had the same exact cart contents, too: shower curtain, laundry soap, kitchen essentials, sheets and towels.

    As I rushed from unloading my mother’s purchases to pick up my youngest daughter at dance class – 15 minutes late . . . again – I thought, “I am living the Sandwich experience.”

    I, and nearly every one of my friends and acquaintances.

    Melanie has been sitting at her dying mother’s side for the past two weeks, leaving only to attend her high school daughter’s performances. She’s learned more about hospice, caregiving, and end of life choices in the past two weeks than I have in the past two decades.

    Carol, a professional with a thriving private practice, has gradually reduced her work week to three days as her kids have completed college. Last week, Carol started working five days a week again to help cover the costs of two parents in need of high-level assisted living care.

    My husband is taking tomorrow off work to accompany his parents to the doctor to learn how his 87 year old mother’s recently diagnosed cancer will be treated, and to support his 93 year old father in handling the news.

    Clearly, we’re not alone. Both CBS and NBC are currently airing segments during their evening news broadcast that focus on this exact challenge which is facing millions of Americans today.

    Many of our parents need care in assisted living communities, nursing homes and retirement centers. And you can bet your last dollar that every one of us will be picky, annoying, and demanding. We’ve grown up demanding more, and we’re accustomed to getting it.

    A promotional announcement for the upcoming Assisted Living Federation of America conference featured a Disney University past executive speaking on the topic of “Learning from Disney, Where It's Not About Satisfaction.”

    While Disney seeks loyalty by offering the best vacation experience imaginable, we in senior care have felt smugly successful if our clients are merely “satisfied”.

    As my generation of self-centered Baby Boomers enters the long term care system – as advocates for our parents or as consumers ourselves – beware: We’ll be looking for an experience that far surpasses simply “satisfactory.”

    Yesterday I interviewed a young woman for an office position. She told me of an earlier job she’d had in a care setting where she had been excited to help, but left after just three months.

    “I was thrown right into the work with no training at all – just another employee to get me started,” she said. “I would have loved the job, but I couldn’t do it without training.”

    No wonder the caregiver turnover rate is so high – over 70% annually, according to the most recent survey by the American Health Care Association (AHCA), as reported by the National Clearinghouse on the Direct Care Workforce.

    This one thing I know: As a profession of senior care providers, we are not going to be ready to meet the high demands of my generation if we don’t aim higher.

    Higher in our training of frontline staff.

    Higher in our own expectations of happy customers.

    Because for me – and for millions like me – it is no longer just a job; it’s personal.

    Links for references in this article:

    ALFA

    ALFA Conference (May 15-17 in Dallas, TX)

    Fred Lee, author of If Disney Ran Your Hospital (Amazon link)

    AHCA

    Direct Care Turnover Statistics

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  • Tell Us Your Story
  • Admit it - you waited until the last minute to get your CEUs, too. My license is up for renewal on April 15 (nice date - I can remember it since I have some other onerous tasks due then, too); I haven't added up my CEUs yet to see how many "last-minutes" I'll be needing.

    Did we rescue you with last minute CEUs?

    Share your story - you might make the next postcard or front page of our website!

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